Your Growth Begins With Feedback

💬 Join Our WhatsApp Community: http://tapthe.link/futureiqwa Most people think they want feedback, but what they really want is reassurance. The moment honest criticism appears, discomfort kicks in and growth quietly stops. A single shift in perspective can completely change this, harsh feedback doesn’t have to feel like an attack. When seen as guidance or advice, the same words become easier to accept, apply, and learn from. The biggest improvements in life often come from conversations people usually avoid. The way questions are asked can decide whether others stay polite or tell the truth that actually helps. Learning how to invite useful advice without fear can unlock faster growth, stronger self awareness, and a mindset that turns uncomfortable moments into powerful opportunities. Videos you may like / referenced in today’s episode: Deliberate Practices : https://youtu.be/tysT6DMFGH4 Bayesian Prior: https://youtu.be/bxx-My8J_kM The Boiling Frog Method: https://youtu.be/1BqsDse4aMI Books referenced in this video: Shop Twyla Tharp's Book Here: https://taap.it/TwylaTharp Do hit us up on Twitter: @ngkabra http://twitter.com/ngkabra @shrikant https://twitter.com/shrikant Chapters: 00:00 Why Most People Ask for Feedback Wrong 01:21 Negative Criticism vs. Positive Encouragement 02:14 The Twyla Tharp Trick: Filtering Criticism into Suggestions 03:29 Why Feedback Works Best When Framed as "Advice" 04:52 The Tim Harford Trick: "What Would Make It a 10?" 05:54 The Corporate Breakdown: Why Manager Appraisals Fail 08:40 Strategic Timing: The Value of Continuous Feedback 10:16 How to Ask Friends for Feedback Comfortably 11:22 Ditching Generic Questions for Concrete Observations 12:06 The Power of Asking Twice 13:07 The OARS Framework for Receiving Feedback 15:02 Nurturing the Relationship After Tough Feedback 15:54 Resolving Contradictory Feedback (Taste vs. Objective Errors) 17:13 Marathe Wisdom & Safe Environments for Growth 18:20 Conclusion: Connecting Feedback to Deliberate Practice Listen it on the podcast provider of your choice: https://tapthe.link/FutureIQRSS Follow FutureIQ on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefutureiq/ Source / References: https://timharford.com/2025/02/do-you-want-the-good-feedback-or-the-bad-feedback/ https://timharford.com/2017/02/how-being-wrong-can-help-us-get-it-right/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2759607/ https://timharford.com/2011/06/regrets-ive-had-a-few/ https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/features/apl-apl0000368.pdf https://www.annualreviews.org/content/journals/10.1146/annurev-orgpsych-110622-031927 #futureiq #feedback